My therapeutic approach is Relational Transactional Analysis. This is a flexible modality to develop understanding of our internal experience and the way we relate socially. Transactional Analysis can address a person’s communications and interactions with the goal of developing healthier relationships with ourselves and others.
I offer support to individuals and couples working on their relationships with their partners and important others. We can explore patterns and modes of communication and behaviours. We work towards recognition of responsibility for our own choices, and ways to resolve the difficulties and issues that keep presenting themselves, which can often result in a feeling of stuckness.
I believe unaddressed experiences of hurt and misattunement can lead to us repeating the same defeating patterns in adult life which in turn can prevent us from living in a more gratifying way. Counselling and psychotherapy can help not only to work on difficulties but also to explore new possibilities towards personal achievement.
Patterns or repetitive behaviour, choices and situations can often become clearer. Links can be made, and meanings can emerge over the course of therapy. This may help to understand oneself better and develop more satisfying life experiences.
What happens after the first session.
In our initial meeting, you can tell me about your motivations and what you hope to achieve. We will get a sense of how we might work together. Initially, we can meet for 4-5 sessions before making a decision about a possible longer-term work. I have regular reviews to see how therapy is working for you and if it matches your expectations.
Some of the areas I am experienced in working with include:
Loss and bereavement
Covid-19 complex grief
Sexual and physical abuse
Early childhood issues
Work related problems and stress
Feeling stuck in life
Therapy sessions last for 50 minutes. They take place once or twice a week at the same day/time .
Regular weekly sessions are important for therapy to be effective.
Couple therapy (Monogamy and consensual non-monogamy).
Are you stuck in the same repetitive patterns all over again? Have misunderstandings created insurmountable walls that are now keeping you apart? As a couple counsellor I will help you identify and work through the issues affecting your relationship, by observing your interactions and facilitating open discussion between you and your partner. Sometimes it can be difficult to solve the difficulties between you, and an impartial third party may help. I work with monogamy and consensual non-monogamy relationships.
Couple counselling is usually short term and solution focused, even though it can become longer term depending on what will emerge in the process.
This type of therapy can be helpful by bringing to awareness repeated unhelpful behaviours between you that keep you trapped in unhealthy ways of relating. Usually communication is the key, as well as developing your emotional literacy and straight-talking that can help you find clearer ways of communicating and reconnect in healthier ways.
Sessions are 50 minutes long. Weekly or fortnightly.
Erika Mancini Psychotherapeutic Counsellor
London, Ealing W5, London Bridge SE1