I believe past and present relationships, as well as important 'absent' relationships can shape the core of our existence and emotional experience. My therapeutic approach is Relational Transactional Analysis. This means that I work in a collaborative way within the space of the therapeutic relationship to develop understanding of your experience and ways of relating to yourself and to others. This can help identify and make meaning of patterns of behaviour, feelings and beliefs that might have been helpful in the past but that might prevent you from developing more rewarding life experiences in the present.
I suppose unaddressed experiences of hurt and misattunement from childhood can lead to us repeating the same defeating patterns in adult life which in turn can prevent us from living our life fully and in a more gratifying way. I offer counselling and psychotherapy not only to work on difficulties and towards making changes but also to explore new possibilities for your personal achievement and self actualisation.
What happens after the first session.
In our initial meeting, you can tell me about your motivations and what you wish to achieve. We will get a sense of how we might work together. Initially, we can meet for 4-5 sessions before making a decision about a possible longer-term work. I have regular reviews to see how therapy is working for you and if it matches your expectations.
Some of the areas I am experienced in working with include:
Loss and bereavement
Covid-19 complex grief
Sexual and physical abuse
Early childhood issues
Work related problems and stress
Feeling stuck in life
Therapy sessions last for 50 minutes. They take place once or twice a week at the same day/time .
Regular weekly sessions are important for therapy to be effective.
Couple therapy (Monogamy and consensual non-monogamy)
Are you stuck in the same repetitive patterns all over again? Have misunderstandings created insurmountable walls that are now keeping you apart? As a couple counsellor I will help you identify and work through the issues affecting your relationship, by observing your interactions and facilitating open discussion between you and your partner. Sometimes it can be difficult to solve the difficulties between you, and an impartial third party may help. I work with monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationships.
Couple counselling is usually short term and solution focused, even though it can become longer term depending on what will emerge in the process.
This type of therapy can be helpful by bringing to awareness repeated unhelpful behaviours between you that keep you trapped in unhealthy ways of relating. Usually communication is the key, as well as developing your emotional literacy and straight-talking that can help you find clearer ways of communicating and reconnect in healthier ways.
Sessions are 50 minutes long. Weekly or fortnightly.
Erika Mancini Psychotherapist & Counsellor
London, Ealing W5, London Bridge SE1